To My Guy Best Friend’s New Girlfriend,

I’ve actually never been given the opportunity to meet you. But if I had been, I would have said these things.

We’ve waited a long time for you. Over the last few years I’ve hoped and prayed for my friend to meet someone who cared for him. I hoped that someday someone amazing would enter his life. Someone who deserved him and was deserving of his love. I’ve seen him through some not so right girls and helped him weed out the one’s who were no-go’s from the beginning. He chose you. He thinks you deserve it. Please be good enough! Please honor your relationship and love him more than he would ever ask you for.

Can you see how much he cares for you? Can you see how much he wants your relationship to work? Please want him more than anyone else! Show him you’re the right one by making him your priority. Remove other distractions from your life so that your relationship has the opportunity to grow properly. Make the space required to show him that he’s your one and only. Are you proud of him? Are you proud to be his girlfriend. Then show the world! Tell people about him. I hope you love him so much that you can’t help but speak kindly about him to everyone.

You have a unique man. I hope you know that. I hope you see that he leads with his heart. I hope you’ve taken the time to understand that he holds nothing back. If he gives his love then it belongs to you forever. Please take great care of his heart! It’s your job to validate him and reciprocate this love. Give of your love freely. Care for him with every fiber of your being because that is the care you are receiving. Don’t take advantage of his forgiving spirit. Don’t stretch his understanding heart. Be worth the love you’re receiving. Don’t take it for granted.

I hope by now you’ve seen past the first impression person he’s been showing you. I hope you’ll choose to support him and walk him through the hard days. Please accept his kind of crazy! Love him when he’s silly. Love him when he’s nerdy. Love him when he screams at his video games. Love him when he hits the bottom. Love him on days where he isn’t thinking straight and doesn’t know what to do. Don’t just accept his crazy, love him because you understand the man that is a result of it.

Give him space to feel safe. Allow your presence to be the place where everything is acceptable and loved. Please let him be fully himself! Let him know that you’re the one place where he doesn’t have to hold it together. Be safe, be secure, and be there. Every single time.

Have you seen his amazing qualities? Have you recognized how grounded he is in his beliefs? Have you seen his kindness? Have you fallen in love with them? If so, do you tell him? Understand your words of affirmation are more important than you can ever imagine. Please use your words to boost his confidence! Never hold back an I Love You or words of appreciation. Tell him he’s good enough. Don’t just assume that he knows. Everyone needs to hear this more.

He’s not always perfect. No one is. Please don’t be afraid to call him out when he needs it. Do it lovingly. Be ok with disagreeing. Do it in a way that he can accept your words as loving and meaningful. Don’t make him feel dejected or like a failure. If you do, it will take a while for that part of him to open to you again.

As your relationship progresses, you are entering a new dimension. He isn’t one person to love. He’s three people. His children will require your love, attention, and understanding. Please love his children as you love your own! Be willing to earn their trust. Understand that it’s going to take some time to adjust to a new set of rules offered by a new person. Love them despite their difficulties. Love them even when they don’t want to love you back. Cherish them in the way children need to be cherished. Give them the motherly love they so desperately need.

And if you’re going to be around for a while. Please be the family and potential wife he desperately desires. Be steady. Be secure. Love him unconditionally. Make your new family your world. Invest in making a life together that’s grounded firmly in an unbreakable love. Because that is what my friend deserves. That is the kind of person we’ve been waiting for.

He chose you! He chose you above any others. Now please, it’s up to you to be worth it. Please don’t take your relationship lightly. Please invest your heart, mind, and soul with this man. You will reap the rewards of his love and loyalty for many years to come if you do.

And while I’ll probably never meet you. I do hope you’re happy. I pray that you love him with every fiber of your being. Because he’s totally worth it.

#sonottogether